The Most Powerful Words I ever Heard…

Happy New Year!  No I am not confused.  Today is the start of my 2021.  I always give myself grace and time as the previous year ends and new one begins.  Time to rest and recuperate from the hectic holidays, enjoy our many January birthdays and basically get my ducks in a row for the new year.  I am on my own timetable by my own choosing.

It is not too late for you to do the same.  You can reboot 2021 and make it whatever you want.  Sometimes I reboot several times in the same year.  There is energy around a reboot.  Plus while there are a lot of rules in this life that need to be followed there ARE some that we can control and starting the new year when we want to and doing a reboot are two of them.

Lots of people are rehashing 2020 and already lamenting 2021.  I am not one of them.  I am a possibility thinker and at heart an optimist.  I also like to plan.  AND I like to have a safety net for those plans so often there is Plan A quickly followed by Plan B, C and D.  If I have to fall back on Plan D you can be assured a whole of something hit the fan quickly.

All that being said I am not married to any of my to do lists or calendars or action lists.  I leave room for flexibility although I have learned that too much flexibility like too much chocolate can wreak havoc on my life.

If you live where it is the dead of winter it may be hard to stay motivated.  The weather can make us want to hunker down under a blanket and wait for spring.  What motivates me?  Honestly since 2017 it is the most powerful words I ever heard.

The words came from my parents.  Actually my Mom but let me give you a little back story.  For years, actually about 3 decades, my parents always told us kids the same thing at the beginning of the year:

” We have a plan.  We have a two year plan to get this house cleaned out and sold.  If you want anything, let us know now, otherwise it is all going.  And if you left anything here, come and get it.”

This “plan” started before my Dad retired.  It was a good plan and yet it was flawed.  My parents did not have a plan, they had an intention.  They had no action plotted out with the plan, no real deadline.  Yes they said two years but two years is a really really long time.  They never broke it up into doable segments and 30 years after the infamous two year plan intentions were declared they were in the same house, more stuff and no real progress had been made.

In the end they were right.  It took me and my siblings and our spouses two years to clean out the house and get it updated to sell after my father died and my mother moved to assisted living.

Honestly it made me sad.  There were so many things they never got to do or kept themselves from doing because of this two year plan.  On top of all this when my father died my mother was utterly clueless to paperwork, documents, and all the items that need to be pulled together to get an estate settled and get her into assisted living.  It required many hours  of detective work on our part and a lot of time spent digging through piles of papers.

So those powerful words came the week after my Dad died as my husband and Mom headed to the bank to start the process of settling my Dad’s estate.  She looked at Paul and said ”  I kept asking you father in law to explain things to me so I could be knowledgeable about all the paperwork and our finances.  He always said ” Great idea, we can do that next week”  And then she said the words I will never forget:

                           IT”S NEXT WEEK 🙁

And she softly began to cry.

Not only are those words powerful but for me they are also a bit painful.  Still it was one of those moments my husband and I have never forgotten.

So as I begin this new year I think of those words often.  I can plan all I want but if I don’t take action the plan is worthless.  I fight against procrastination ALL THE TIME.  I often joke I have a PhD in it  but I know if I just take one tiny step forward in the things I really don’t want to do I will keep going and get it done.

I do have a plan for 2021 with action steps to go with it.  It is constantly evolving.  I have learned to be present, to not wait on the fun things I really want to do, and do the stuff I really don’t want to so I can do those fun things.  I try not to wallow in the negative, and cherish my friends and family.  Do I get off track? Of course.  I am human. Things get to me, I get mad or sad and sometimes stuck.  And then I remember those three powerful words and how I hope I never say them.

Your SOMEDAY is TODAY…it is not next week or the week after.  You CAN take steps ( even baby ones) toward your dreams, your goals, whatever it is you want.

It is a New Year…whether you started 19 days ago or today.  We think next week will always be there for us and for most of us it will be but I am not taking that chance.  I hope you don’t either.

Here is to 2021..may it be full of all that  you want it to be NOW !

Cheers,  Jennifer

P.S.  Want help getting started?  Contact me at my email: Jennifer@healthcoachingforwomen.com for a 30 minute intro to coaching session.  I would love to work together to get your year going and make your someday TODAY!