The Most Powerful Words I ever Heard…

Happy New Year!  No I am not confused.  Today is the start of my 2021.  I always give myself grace and time as the previous year ends and new one begins.  Time to rest and recuperate from the hectic holidays, enjoy our many January birthdays and basically get my ducks in a row for the new year.  I am on my own timetable by my own choosing.

It is not too late for you to do the same.  You can reboot 2021 and make it whatever you want.  Sometimes I reboot several times in the same year.  There is energy around a reboot.  Plus while there are a lot of rules in this life that need to be followed there ARE some that we can control and starting the new year when we want to and doing a reboot are two of them.

Lots of people are rehashing 2020 and already lamenting 2021.  I am not one of them.  I am a possibility thinker and at heart an optimist.  I also like to plan.  AND I like to have a safety net for those plans so often there is Plan A quickly followed by Plan B, C and D.  If I have to fall back on Plan D you can be assured a whole of something hit the fan quickly.

All that being said I am not married to any of my to do lists or calendars or action lists.  I leave room for flexibility although I have learned that too much flexibility like too much chocolate can wreak havoc on my life.

If you live where it is the dead of winter it may be hard to stay motivated.  The weather can make us want to hunker down under a blanket and wait for spring.  What motivates me?  Honestly since 2017 it is the most powerful words I ever heard.

The words came from my parents.  Actually my Mom but let me give you a little back story.  For years, actually about 3 decades, my parents always told us kids the same thing at the beginning of the year:

” We have a plan.  We have a two year plan to get this house cleaned out and sold.  If you want anything, let us know now, otherwise it is all going.  And if you left anything here, come and get it.”

This “plan” started before my Dad retired.  It was a good plan and yet it was flawed.  My parents did not have a plan, they had an intention.  They had no action plotted out with the plan, no real deadline.  Yes they said two years but two years is a really really long time.  They never broke it up into doable segments and 30 years after the infamous two year plan intentions were declared they were in the same house, more stuff and no real progress had been made.

In the end they were right.  It took me and my siblings and our spouses two years to clean out the house and get it updated to sell after my father died and my mother moved to assisted living.

Honestly it made me sad.  There were so many things they never got to do or kept themselves from doing because of this two year plan.  On top of all this when my father died my mother was utterly clueless to paperwork, documents, and all the items that need to be pulled together to get an estate settled and get her into assisted living.  It required many hours  of detective work on our part and a lot of time spent digging through piles of papers.

So those powerful words came the week after my Dad died as my husband and Mom headed to the bank to start the process of settling my Dad’s estate.  She looked at Paul and said ”  I kept asking you father in law to explain things to me so I could be knowledgeable about all the paperwork and our finances.  He always said ” Great idea, we can do that next week”  And then she said the words I will never forget:

                           IT”S NEXT WEEK 🙁

And she softly began to cry.

Not only are those words powerful but for me they are also a bit painful.  Still it was one of those moments my husband and I have never forgotten.

So as I begin this new year I think of those words often.  I can plan all I want but if I don’t take action the plan is worthless.  I fight against procrastination ALL THE TIME.  I often joke I have a PhD in it  but I know if I just take one tiny step forward in the things I really don’t want to do I will keep going and get it done.

I do have a plan for 2021 with action steps to go with it.  It is constantly evolving.  I have learned to be present, to not wait on the fun things I really want to do, and do the stuff I really don’t want to so I can do those fun things.  I try not to wallow in the negative, and cherish my friends and family.  Do I get off track? Of course.  I am human. Things get to me, I get mad or sad and sometimes stuck.  And then I remember those three powerful words and how I hope I never say them.

Your SOMEDAY is TODAY…it is not next week or the week after.  You CAN take steps ( even baby ones) toward your dreams, your goals, whatever it is you want.

It is a New Year…whether you started 19 days ago or today.  We think next week will always be there for us and for most of us it will be but I am not taking that chance.  I hope you don’t either.

Here is to 2021..may it be full of all that  you want it to be NOW !

Cheers,  Jennifer

P.S.  Want help getting started?  Contact me at my email: Jennifer@healthcoachingforwomen.com for a 30 minute intro to coaching session.  I would love to work together to get your year going and make your someday TODAY!

 

Changing things up!

What is life without change?  My life has changed in big ways lately.  Inevitable ways but life goes on and so do I.

That being said I am changing things up a little here.

As soon as I figure out how to do it technically ( isn’t technology great most of the time..emphasis on most!)  I am changing the tagline and the focus  on my coaching and this website.

Not a lot..but just enough.

Love my tagline: Your life, Your Health, Your Way  ….BUT  it is too right side up.

Time to shake things up a bit.  So the new tagline will be…drum roll please:

Someday is TODAY!

Seriously…It is time to do this….truth be told most of us are overdue for this truth much like the library books sitting in front of me.

And if not now then when?

This all came to me yesterday because for some reason when I get in the car, ride my bike or I’m in the shower I get the best ideas.  Of course as you can guess I have no where to write these ideas down.    Sometimes I remember them..sometimes they fly out of my brain as fast as the came in.

Surprisingly when these ideas came to me yesterday they stayed in my brain! Yay me!  Not only was I driving but I was also listening to an audio book and yet my mind still wandered.  I started to think about the next ten years and what I want my goals to be for this next decade of my life. Like a shooting star of brilliance  I suddenly questioned myself  “Ten years?”  “TEN YEARS?”  Why not the next ten seconds, ten minutes, or ten hours?”

Yes ,why not?  Long term goals are great unless we give ourselves so much time we actually never get started.  Stephen Covey coined the phrase “Begin with the end in mind”    The key word in that is begin.  If we look at the end goal it might be too daunting.  Time to break it down into tiny pieces that eventually make up the whole.

Personally I have a great but sad example of this.  My parents had a two year plan to clean out their house, declutter and maybe move to a smaller place.  My Dad always joked that they were going to buy a mobile home and visit each of us for four months at a time.  The two year plan was a great idea except….they talked about it for the last 30 years and never quite got around to taking that first step.  My Dad passed away and now it is my Mom and the four of us sorting and organizing a house that has years of stuff in it. Not fun and it made me realize while they gave themselves an end date they never gave themselves a start date.

If you find yourself saying frequently “Someday I will travel, move, live by the water, read these books, write a book, exercise, change jobs, write more letters, get organized, take a course, finish my degree etc. please know you are not alone.

I’ll bet you often say those things and then give yourself a million reasons why you can’t start today or any day and  then before you know it you are facing some sort of deadline that life has handed you.

One of the best movie lines I have ever heard came from the movie “Funny Girl” when Fanny Brice asks Nick Arnstein what he does for a living and he replies; : “I live” and she says : “Well everyone does that”  His response?

Hardly anyone does!

Take a minute and think about the truth in that statement.

Life can certainly hand us a shit load of sorrows.  Do we roll around it it or do we spread it in our garden and let it fertilize our awesomeness?

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I think you know the answer  but just can’t get going.  It seems overwhelming..kinda like heading into the bedroom to go to sleep when you are exhausted and you discover that you stripped the bed to wash the sheets and you can either not make the bed up and just wrap yourself in the sheets or take the 5-10 minutes to actually make the bed.  It is one of those “Oh shit” moments.  I’ve actually argued with myself that I am way to tired to make up the bed but in reality if I don’t then I know won’t sleep well so I do it and it takes all of 5 minutes.

Take a look at those “someday” wants and desire.  I’m here to work with you to find a starting point , send you off to the gas station to put fuel in your tank and encourage you to rev up your engine.

Are you ready?

Want to do something in the next 10 seconds??

In the next ten seconds you can send me a quick email to schedule a complimentary coaching session to see if this is for you.

Send it to  yourupsidedownlife@gmail.com  and you’ve done that ONE thing toward your goal.

Can’t wait to hear from you!  In the meantime I am going to my own powering up, making someday today, kicking ass and turning things upside down.  I have no idea where I’ll be in the next 10 years but it’s time to start moving forward.

 

We would have missed out on this yummy treat without Inspired Imperfection!

Change can be stressful but change can be a good.  In this case it is a little of both but mostly good.  After much thought and a lot of work ( mostly brain power of which I am of limited supply some days) I decided to make some changes here at Your Upside Down Life.

And I love it!  Hope you do as well.

I am embracing and helping others discover “Inspired Imperfection”

You’ll be hearing lots about it and why it is so important and yet all that has to wait and in the spirit of Inspired Imperfection I am just going to jump right in and share  one of the best examples ( and yummiest) of Inspired Imperfection.

A cook for an Inn in Massachusetts ran out of an ingredient for her dessert.  She made a substitution with what she had on hand. It was similar but different enough that it pretty much changed the whole recipe to everyone’s delight and became wildly popular.bake-599521_1280

It was of course the beginnings of the famous Toll House Chocolate Chip Cookies.  You can find the whole story here…but before you go there I want you to think about something.

What if in the course of cooking she started to stress out because the chocolate she had on hand wasn’t melting into the batter like the regular bakers chocolate she usually used?

What if she threw out the batter, the cookies and made a different dessert?

What if she panicked because she didn’t have exactly the right ingredients?

Imagine not never having chocolate chip cookies, warm from the oven, gooey and sinfully delicious??

WOW….how depressing and sad to miss out on those.

I find myself grateful to her and her “Inspired Imperfection”.  I will never know if she did panic, or wring her hands or just say “Hey, lets see if this works and if it doesn’t antidepressants  I’ll figure something else out”

Obviously even if she did panic she discovered that her substitution ended up creating a heap of warm deliciousness.

My apologies if  I am now making you want chocolate chip cookies. Guess what I am doing after I finish this??  Yum!

[bctt tweet=” That is what Inspired Imperfection is all about. It’s taking what we have, who we are, what we are doing or being and going with the flow to make it work.” username=”jenniferbross”]

I’ll be honest, sometimes it doesn’t work and we have to make adjustments but a surprising amount of times it DOES work and it is AMAZING.

Quick, quick story.  I hosted my Dad’s 90th birthday party.  I am not a gifted party giver..more of a party goer.  I am a great help, always bring food and do whatever I can for the hostess.  This was such a stretch for me but I did it.  And it was the essence of Inspired Imperfection as in I forgot to put out one or more of the appetizers, several side dishes,two grandkids got poison oak from our backyard and I forgot to give one of the overnight  guests towels.

And yet it was a HUGE success.  No yummy discoveries like chocolate chip cookies but more of a discovery that I can give a great party!  So much so my Dad would like a repeat next year!

Let’s embrace Inspired Imperfection!  Seems upside down right!!  Perfect!!  The next yummy dessert is just an imperfection away!

OR  even better instead of getting stuck or waiting for everything to be “perfect” on that very elusive “someday” ( which doesn’t exist)  you will just grab your imperfection and whip it up to be amazing!

Want some help along the way?  Send me a quick hey there email and  let’s chat!   Send it to yourupsidedownlife@gmail.com

Cheers!