Why You Might Knead to Make Some Bread

One of the things that alot of people are doing since the start of the pandemic is making sourdough bread.  I came across it quite belatedly and I was puzzled.  Bread making really?

Not that I don’t like homemade bread.  I do. Until recently I actually had two bread makers (don’t ask) and there is nothing better than walking inside from the cold and  having the aroma of  fresh bread  envelope me. It immediately makes me happy and fills the air with warmth, love and togetherness.

My grandmother used to bake bread all the time.  She sent me the recipe when I was first married and it was just recently that I decided to try it.  I have baked many loaves of bread but never with her recipe.  It made me smile as I read the recipe in her very distinctive and familiar handwriting.  I saw her fussing about the kitchen with every spare spot on the counter covered with a bowl, an ingredient or a spoon.  She was famous for using EVERY flat surface and we loved her for it.

Why now though?  I had a very good theory until I read a recipe on sourdough bread and realized that it is considered an artisan bread therefore no kneading necessary.

I still think my theory holds water or bread.  You choose.   So here goes.

Since this whole crazy pandemic started we have been socially distancing, not hugging, not seeing loved ones  (especially the elderly) not shaking hands.  In other words we were suddenly thrust into a world of touch deprivation.

If you are a hugger like me it is sooo hard.  Not only do I love hugs, but I love giving them and I’m really good at it.  We humans need touch.  Babies that don’t get touch will actually die from what is called Failure to Thrive.  Human touch is essential to their well being.

It is for us grown adults as well!

So bread making is a form of touch..maybe not sourdough but it is an act of creating with your hands.  As much as I love my bread maker that has the dough cycle and does all the kneading for me, I found myself letting the bread maker gather dust as I rolled and folded the soft, warm dough.  Not only could I pound on it to relieve anxiety but the constant kneading and folding it over  and over again  was very soothing.  I imagined  my grandmother doing this daily, shooing my grandfather out of the kitchen.

Hubby’s first attempt at Artisan Bread

Much like running gets those endorphins rising so does bread making or cooking a favorite family  recipe.  I believe it is the act of creating.  The warmth, the fragrance, the memories of family gatherings and the hopes of having a house filled with laughter and our families again (even the annoying ones 🙂 brings us a level of peace.

Despite the fact that bread can add to our pandemic pudge it is worth doing. Even if you get a mix and just dump it in the bowl and follow the directions..it still counts.  It gives a texture to touch, something active to do, and then we get to share it with those in our households.

It also gives our pets a rest, although my elderly golden retriever  will take all the cuddles and pets he can get.  I do believe the big rate of new pet ownership is companionship and unconditional love and a real live being to touch.  Added bonus..pets won’t add to our pandemic pudge although they may make your wallet skinnier.

So I am challenging you to rise to the occasion..pun intended.  Grab some yeast. Funny story..last time I bought some I could not find it.  The young employee who helped me find it had no idea what it was…so bread making can be accidentally educational as well.

Enjoy the process….take your time.

What else can you do to add texture to your life?

Let me know if you want some coaching on moving forward and  making today YOUR day ,

Now go make your someday..today…you knead to do it now!   Jennifer

Why This Word Can Be a Game Changer for You

One word?  Yes one word is all it takes to make even the smallest of changes in your life.  For Shondra Rhimes, her word was Yes.  She stopped saying no to things and starting saying Yes for an entire year!  It worked so well she even wrote a book about it.

Believe me I was the original skeptic about this but it turns out it works.  I know this because I have been using it for probably 10 years now and it has made a huge difference in my life.

So what’s your word?  I cannot tell you because that is for you to decide.  Wait don’t stop reading…it seriously is not that hard and I am here to get you started.

First let me tell what works for me…it may or may not work for you and that is more than okay.  It is ,however, a jumping off point.

Every year I choose one word that I am going to use, lean on, question, stomp on and ultimately come to know that truly IS my word.

I am always surprised  how the word I chose 352 days prior turns out to be the best word for me.  Every year I wonder if it will work and every year it does.

Last year my word was Grace.  Little did I know how much Grace I would need in 2020, not only for the pandemic but for my whole life.  My elderly mother had a stroke that left her in the throes of dementia with one foot in the present and the rest of her in the past.   Add Covid quarantine into the mix and I needed all the Grace I could muster.  Even though 2020 is over and we are well into 2021 I keep Grace in my back pocket to pair it with my current word to help me along.

So how do you find your word.? Well sometimes you choose and sometimes it chooses you . Actually I must admit most of the time the word chooses me.  Let me explain. A dear friend has  “faith” for her word this year.  She noticed how much it kept showing up for her in every part of her life.  Faith that it was the right decision, faith that things will work out, faith that she would find the right job.  It was like the word was just sitting in front of her saying “Pick Me, Pick me” as it waved it hands frantically trying to be noticed.

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For me it wasn’t so much the word as the action.  I like to run.  It keeps me centered.  I noticed on my runs there were times when I would struggle and other runs it would seem like I could go on forever.  It was all in the rhythm and coordination of my pace, my breath and my thoughts.  Thoughts?  Yes..it is almost impossible for me to run while thinking negative things.  “Stinking thinking” and running do not mix well.  Then I noticed the different rhythms of my day..the ups and downs, the ever changing cadence of daily living.  It soon became obvious late last year that rhythm was meant to be my word of the year.  As we entered 2021 I embraced the word ” Rhythm ” with Grace as a back up to be my best guide in 2021.

Is February too late to have a word of the year? Absolutely not.  Actually it is the best time as things aren’t as crazy as they are in late December.  The shorter, chillier days lend to slowing down and a little more time to do things for ourselves.

Here are few tips:

  •  It doesn’t have to be “perfect” .  There is no such thing.
  • It can be something you want to achieve as in a goal but sometimes that gets to be a little cumbersome.
  • Often it is more about an essence. Something you want more of in your life.
  • It can be a theme for your year
  • It can be something that motivates you, makes you smile or grounds you.

To help you along here are a few examples of past words of the year..some are mine, some I borrowed from friends.

     Wonder:  remembering to have that spirit of wonder at all that is around you

    Inspire:  finding inspriration in the big and small things

     Flow:   finding a peaceful flow to each day, to your life

    Celebrate:  This friend wanted to remember the phrase:

” Until Further Notice Celebrate  Everything”!

    Joy: Finding joy right where you are in the present moment.

A few other have been  inspire, spark, momentum, bloom, and sparkle.  The list is endless.

So are you ready to jump in and have a word of the year?  It truly is a gift you can give yourself that doesn’t cost anything.  All you have to do is get quiet and it will come to you.  Or just keep the idea in mind and see what pops up for you.

It always surprises me when I focus on something how many times it appears to me.  When we were looking for a new front door suddenly I noticed EVERYONE’s front door.  The same can happen here and yet…do not stress if  it doesn’t happen right away.  It will happen when you least expect..like most things.

Need help?  I’m only an email away at Jennifer@healthcoachingforwomen.com

As always, today is YOUR day!  Jennifer

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Most Powerful Words I ever Heard…

Happy New Year!  No I am not confused.  Today is the start of my 2021.  I always give myself grace and time as the previous year ends and new one begins.  Time to rest and recuperate from the hectic holidays, enjoy our many January birthdays and basically get my ducks in a row for the new year.  I am on my own timetable by my own choosing.

It is not too late for you to do the same.  You can reboot 2021 and make it whatever you want.  Sometimes I reboot several times in the same year.  There is energy around a reboot.  Plus while there are a lot of rules in this life that need to be followed there ARE some that we can control and starting the new year when we want to and doing a reboot are two of them.

Lots of people are rehashing 2020 and already lamenting 2021.  I am not one of them.  I am a possibility thinker and at heart an optimist.  I also like to plan.  AND I like to have a safety net for those plans so often there is Plan A quickly followed by Plan B, C and D.  If I have to fall back on Plan D you can be assured a whole of something hit the fan quickly.

All that being said I am not married to any of my to do lists or calendars or action lists.  I leave room for flexibility although I have learned that too much flexibility like too much chocolate can wreak havoc on my life.

If you live where it is the dead of winter it may be hard to stay motivated.  The weather can make us want to hunker down under a blanket and wait for spring.  What motivates me?  Honestly since 2017 it is the most powerful words I ever heard.

The words came from my parents.  Actually my Mom but let me give you a little back story.  For years, actually about 3 decades, my parents always told us kids the same thing at the beginning of the year:

” We have a plan.  We have a two year plan to get this house cleaned out and sold.  If you want anything, let us know now, otherwise it is all going.  And if you left anything here, come and get it.”

This “plan” started before my Dad retired.  It was a good plan and yet it was flawed.  My parents did not have a plan, they had an intention.  They had no action plotted out with the plan, no real deadline.  Yes they said two years but two years is a really really long time.  They never broke it up into doable segments and 30 years after the infamous two year plan intentions were declared they were in the same house, more stuff and no real progress had been made.

In the end they were right.  It took me and my siblings and our spouses two years to clean out the house and get it updated to sell after my father died and my mother moved to assisted living.

Honestly it made me sad.  There were so many things they never got to do or kept themselves from doing because of this two year plan.  On top of all this when my father died my mother was utterly clueless to paperwork, documents, and all the items that need to be pulled together to get an estate settled and get her into assisted living.  It required many hours  of detective work on our part and a lot of time spent digging through piles of papers.

So those powerful words came the week after my Dad died as my husband and Mom headed to the bank to start the process of settling my Dad’s estate.  She looked at Paul and said ”  I kept asking you father in law to explain things to me so I could be knowledgeable about all the paperwork and our finances.  He always said ” Great idea, we can do that next week”  And then she said the words I will never forget:

                           IT”S NEXT WEEK 🙁

And she softly began to cry.

Not only are those words powerful but for me they are also a bit painful.  Still it was one of those moments my husband and I have never forgotten.

So as I begin this new year I think of those words often.  I can plan all I want but if I don’t take action the plan is worthless.  I fight against procrastination ALL THE TIME.  I often joke I have a PhD in it  but I know if I just take one tiny step forward in the things I really don’t want to do I will keep going and get it done.

I do have a plan for 2021 with action steps to go with it.  It is constantly evolving.  I have learned to be present, to not wait on the fun things I really want to do, and do the stuff I really don’t want to so I can do those fun things.  I try not to wallow in the negative, and cherish my friends and family.  Do I get off track? Of course.  I am human. Things get to me, I get mad or sad and sometimes stuck.  And then I remember those three powerful words and how I hope I never say them.

Your SOMEDAY is TODAY…it is not next week or the week after.  You CAN take steps ( even baby ones) toward your dreams, your goals, whatever it is you want.

It is a New Year…whether you started 19 days ago or today.  We think next week will always be there for us and for most of us it will be but I am not taking that chance.  I hope you don’t either.

Here is to 2021..may it be full of all that  you want it to be NOW !

Cheers,  Jennifer

P.S.  Want help getting started?  Contact me at my email: Jennifer@healthcoachingforwomen.com for a 30 minute intro to coaching session.  I would love to work together to get your year going and make your someday TODAY!

 

Changing things up!

What is life without change?  My life has changed in big ways lately.  Inevitable ways but life goes on and so do I.

That being said I am changing things up a little here.

As soon as I figure out how to do it technically ( isn’t technology great most of the time..emphasis on most!)  I am changing the tagline and the focus  on my coaching and this website.

Not a lot..but just enough.

Love my tagline: Your life, Your Health, Your Way  ….BUT  it is too right side up.

Time to shake things up a bit.  So the new tagline will be…drum roll please:

Someday is TODAY!

Seriously…It is time to do this….truth be told most of us are overdue for this truth much like the library books sitting in front of me.

And if not now then when?

This all came to me yesterday because for some reason when I get in the car, ride my bike or I’m in the shower I get the best ideas.  Of course as you can guess I have no where to write these ideas down.    Sometimes I remember them..sometimes they fly out of my brain as fast as the came in.

Surprisingly when these ideas came to me yesterday they stayed in my brain! Yay me!  Not only was I driving but I was also listening to an audio book and yet my mind still wandered.  I started to think about the next ten years and what I want my goals to be for this next decade of my life. Like a shooting star of brilliance  I suddenly questioned myself  “Ten years?”  “TEN YEARS?”  Why not the next ten seconds, ten minutes, or ten hours?”

Yes ,why not?  Long term goals are great unless we give ourselves so much time we actually never get started.  Stephen Covey coined the phrase “Begin with the end in mind”    The key word in that is begin.  If we look at the end goal it might be too daunting.  Time to break it down into tiny pieces that eventually make up the whole.

Personally I have a great but sad example of this.  My parents had a two year plan to clean out their house, declutter and maybe move to a smaller place.  My Dad always joked that they were going to buy a mobile home and visit each of us for four months at a time.  The two year plan was a great idea except….they talked about it for the last 30 years and never quite got around to taking that first step.  My Dad passed away and now it is my Mom and the four of us sorting and organizing a house that has years of stuff in it. Not fun and it made me realize while they gave themselves an end date they never gave themselves a start date.

If you find yourself saying frequently “Someday I will travel, move, live by the water, read these books, write a book, exercise, change jobs, write more letters, get organized, take a course, finish my degree etc. please know you are not alone.

I’ll bet you often say those things and then give yourself a million reasons why you can’t start today or any day and  then before you know it you are facing some sort of deadline that life has handed you.

One of the best movie lines I have ever heard came from the movie “Funny Girl” when Fanny Brice asks Nick Arnstein what he does for a living and he replies; : “I live” and she says : “Well everyone does that”  His response?

Hardly anyone does!

Take a minute and think about the truth in that statement.

Life can certainly hand us a shit load of sorrows.  Do we roll around it it or do we spread it in our garden and let it fertilize our awesomeness?

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I think you know the answer  but just can’t get going.  It seems overwhelming..kinda like heading into the bedroom to go to sleep when you are exhausted and you discover that you stripped the bed to wash the sheets and you can either not make the bed up and just wrap yourself in the sheets or take the 5-10 minutes to actually make the bed.  It is one of those “Oh shit” moments.  I’ve actually argued with myself that I am way to tired to make up the bed but in reality if I don’t then I know won’t sleep well so I do it and it takes all of 5 minutes.

Take a look at those “someday” wants and desire.  I’m here to work with you to find a starting point , send you off to the gas station to put fuel in your tank and encourage you to rev up your engine.

Are you ready?

Want to do something in the next 10 seconds??

In the next ten seconds you can send me a quick email to schedule a complimentary coaching session to see if this is for you.

Send it to  yourupsidedownlife@gmail.com  and you’ve done that ONE thing toward your goal.

Can’t wait to hear from you!  In the meantime I am going to my own powering up, making someday today, kicking ass and turning things upside down.  I have no idea where I’ll be in the next 10 years but it’s time to start moving forward.

 

We would have missed out on this yummy treat without Inspired Imperfection!

Change can be stressful but change can be a good.  In this case it is a little of both but mostly good.  After much thought and a lot of work ( mostly brain power of which I am of limited supply some days) I decided to make some changes here at Your Upside Down Life.

And I love it!  Hope you do as well.

I am embracing and helping others discover “Inspired Imperfection”

You’ll be hearing lots about it and why it is so important and yet all that has to wait and in the spirit of Inspired Imperfection I am just going to jump right in and share  one of the best examples ( and yummiest) of Inspired Imperfection.

A cook for an Inn in Massachusetts ran out of an ingredient for her dessert.  She made a substitution with what she had on hand. It was similar but different enough that it pretty much changed the whole recipe to everyone’s delight and became wildly popular.bake-599521_1280

It was of course the beginnings of the famous Toll House Chocolate Chip Cookies.  You can find the whole story here…but before you go there I want you to think about something.

What if in the course of cooking she started to stress out because the chocolate she had on hand wasn’t melting into the batter like the regular bakers chocolate she usually used?

What if she threw out the batter, the cookies and made a different dessert?

What if she panicked because she didn’t have exactly the right ingredients?

Imagine not never having chocolate chip cookies, warm from the oven, gooey and sinfully delicious??

WOW….how depressing and sad to miss out on those.

I find myself grateful to her and her “Inspired Imperfection”.  I will never know if she did panic, or wring her hands or just say “Hey, lets see if this works and if it doesn’t antidepressants  I’ll figure something else out”

Obviously even if she did panic she discovered that her substitution ended up creating a heap of warm deliciousness.

My apologies if  I am now making you want chocolate chip cookies. Guess what I am doing after I finish this??  Yum!

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I’ll be honest, sometimes it doesn’t work and we have to make adjustments but a surprising amount of times it DOES work and it is AMAZING.

Quick, quick story.  I hosted my Dad’s 90th birthday party.  I am not a gifted party giver..more of a party goer.  I am a great help, always bring food and do whatever I can for the hostess.  This was such a stretch for me but I did it.  And it was the essence of Inspired Imperfection as in I forgot to put out one or more of the appetizers, several side dishes,two grandkids got poison oak from our backyard and I forgot to give one of the overnight  guests towels.

And yet it was a HUGE success.  No yummy discoveries like chocolate chip cookies but more of a discovery that I can give a great party!  So much so my Dad would like a repeat next year!

Let’s embrace Inspired Imperfection!  Seems upside down right!!  Perfect!!  The next yummy dessert is just an imperfection away!

OR  even better instead of getting stuck or waiting for everything to be “perfect” on that very elusive “someday” ( which doesn’t exist)  you will just grab your imperfection and whip it up to be amazing!

Want some help along the way?  Send me a quick hey there email and  let’s chat!   Send it to yourupsidedownlife@gmail.com

Cheers!

 

Coffee, Keys and Bras…It can all be MacGyvered.

I rarely wager money on anything but  I might be willing to fork over some dough on the obvious assumption that today you will face a problem.

Actually it is even a safer bet that you face more than one and at least one of those will be a doozy.  It will seem insurmountable or maybe it is an ongoing one that pops up at the worst time.

I would even bet lots of money that you could figure it out if I knew just one thing.

Which one of you will channel your inner MacGyver or say those fatal words “yeah but”.

And yet…

I REALLY believe everyone has an inner MacGyver.   Every last one of you.

Why…because in Marie Forleo’s words “Everything is Figuroutable”

One of the things we were taught over and over again when I was training to be an R.N. is that we must above all else be a problem solver.  I learned to look at every problem as a challenge and knew there had to be something I could do to figure it out.

So what does this have to do with coffee, Sunday mornings , keys, and bras?  Lots!

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These things forced me to be creative in my problem solving!

One leisurely Sunday morning I read the paper, drank lots of coffee and finally ( at my dogs urging) got dressed to take him for his morning walk.  I looked at my phone and decided I didn’t want that electronic leash with me and left it on the kitchen counter.

Max and I had a lovely uninterrupted walk but by the time we got home I was in dire need of a bathroom.   Coffee like my dog Max will urgently let you know when it needs to go out!

I opened the garage door and  headed straight to the door into the house  and got that tightness in my stomach  when I realized it was locked.  Then relief..the spare key.  Reached for it and the nail it hung on was unbelievably empty and the dreaded knowledge that I was locked out enveloped my whole body as I muttered a few choice swear words.

I had used it and had not put it back.

My heart sank, my coffee reminded me it was approaching that short window of time where I still had a choice of where and when it would leave me and I was stuck.  My husband was 1500 miles away, the few neighbors I have were at church or away, my phone was in the kitchen and I wanted to cry.

Now my house is secluded in the back with lots of woods so if push buyambienmed.com came to shove I could have made like I was camping and killed a few plants with the risk of poison ivy and ticks … I decided I wasn’t quite to that point.

Pretty and convenient but mmmm..still full of bugs

Private, convenient, and not horrible but mmmm..still full of bugs and ???

Tears would not help so I put my MacGyver hat on and tried everything I could think of and use whatever I had on hand.  After 20 long minutes I somehow, by sticking one end of the blade of a pair scissors in the key hole, moved the mechanism in the doorknob lock and got in.  Phew!

More importantly I felt quite victorious and unstoppable.  What else could I conquer?

Fast forward to this April when I broke my wrist.  Among other things, I figured out how to get my bra on by fastening it, putting it on the floor, stepping into it and wriggling it up my body with my good arm.  Not the easiest or fastest way but I did it!  I’m not even sure MacGyver could have figured that one out 🙂

The one thing I know in coaching is that you probably already have the answer to your question, problem or concern.  That answer might not be obvious and it might require some digging, some inventive possibility thinking and creativeness.  You can, however, get stuck and only see a dead end if you find yourself saying these two words:

Yeah, but.

Those two words have the unique ability to abruptly end any inventive possibility thinking.  Had I not been so determined to dress myself with one hand I might have said “Yeah but no one does it that way”  Yeah but it might hurt my wrist to wriggle into it”  “Yeah but it might get stuck”  It did and I got it unstuck ( glad there is not a video of that one!)

As you are looking at a situation be aware of these two words.  When you find yourself saying them remember to use them as a turning point to look at a different possibility.

Remember it is all figureoutable ….  click here to here the fabulous Marie Forleo tell her story!

Now go figure it out, I know you can!  Look at everything upside down, the view is amazing!

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One last thing! Do  you need help getting past the “Yeah buts” or  are you looking for a new perspective on whatever is going on in your life?  Then lets talk!  Go here for a complimentary coaching session: Let’s Coach

Has listening to the “experts” confused us right into being overweight and out of shape?

Just when you thought it was safe to cook a healthy meal “someone” decides for us that we are doing it all wrong.   I sure wish this “someone” or the so called “experts” would make up their minds or maybe we just need to stop listening and trust our common sense instead.

Social media and the internet provides us with more than enough information about the latest diet trends and fads.  There are scores of before and after photos, recipes, exercise plans and countless promises of weight loss and tight abs.

There is so much information out there that it is paralyzing.  It’s like putting a child in the middle of a giant toy store and telling them to pick one thing.

Cue major meltdown.

Yup..I feel like this alot…

 

They changed the rules AGAIN???

Despite all the knowledge being passed out and research being done  we are still facing an epidemic of obesity and inactivity.

What is the answer?  

I think it is different for everyone.  One size fits all doesn’t work here ( actually it doesn’t work anywhere).  We all have different lifestyles, different needs, picky kids, allergies, varying budgets.  The one thing we all have is the ability to slow things down and listen to our own wisdom and what works best for us.

The best advice I ever heard in regards to eating came from author Michael Pollen who said:

Eat real food

Mostly green

Not a lot

If you can only do two out of three of this list then I would suggest you pick: Real food and not a lot.  The mostly green part would be great but take that to mean all veggies and fruits and it may be easier.

Learning from our past may be the best new rule

I  noticed something very interesting when  I was looking at some old group photos of my grade school classes. (Yes this is when we walked to school in the snow, uphill…both ways. 🙂 )

Out of a class of 20-25 womans health children there were only one or two overweight children .

What has changed? 

  • We actually did walk to school or rode our bikes and believe it or not we also walked home for lunch and back.  We played on the playground while waiting to go inside in the morning and after lunch.  We had recess and we played after school.
  • We had a milk break in the morning but never snack
  • At home we never snacked after dinner. Ice cream was a treat
  • We never had soda in the house
  • Eating in the car was unheard of and fast food was rarely an option
  • We ate at the table. In the kitchen.  Always
  • The food was on the stove or the counter and not the table.  If you wanted seconds you actually had to get up and get it.  You either didn’t make the effort or got distracted by the family conversation and realized you didn’t want seconds after all.

So basically we got a lot of exercise and didn’t have food available all the time.  Treats were just that, treats. The kitchen was where we ate, no where else.

Pretty simple.  Don’t get me wrong there were things that needed improvement.  Adults routinely had quite a long cocktail hour every day, white bread was the norm and the amount  of butter used would make Paula Deen look like she used it sparingly.

I’m not about to wear a dress, high heels and my pearls everyday to cook much like they did in the fifties and sixties ( well Mrs. Cleaver did!) but I can reclaim some of the great habits and traditions from those times.  Sure is simple, easy and more importantly worked well because it sure looks like despite some great improvements we may have “new and improved” ourselves right into being overweight and out of shape.

All because we listened to those who keep changing the rules.

Every time I tie my shoes I remember some valuable life lessons!

Every once in awhile I get a life lesson that continues to serve me well beyond what is normal.  Or I should say what people consider normal.  Normal, I hope , has begun to have a wide range of meanings but that is another topic.

For me one of my early life lessons came when I learned to tie my shoes.  I was five and heading to kindergarten. My parents had successfully taught my older siblings the fine art of shoe tying so this should be easy.

Except that it wasn’t.

I just could not get the concept of making a bow, wrapping the other lace around it and pulling it through, tightening it and ending up with two bows.  Even at that age I thought whoever designed this process had made it way too complicated.  This might have been a predictor for my poor math skills but who knows.

I’m not sure if it was a requirement to learn this before I headed off to school but it seemed like it at the time.  Everyone kept telling me it was soooo easy.  That statement would be followed by a demonstration of how easy it was and my attempt to copy it which always ended up with untied shoes. ( obviously this was way before velcro shoes)

I don’t remember stressing about it.  I remember thinking that it was really no big deal but evidently my parents thought perhaps I would be considered “not bright” if I couldn’t even tie my own shoes at school.  In any case I was saved by an angel of a next door neighbor, Dorothy Drewes who offered to teach me “bunny ears”.  What 5 year old can resist “bunny ears”?  Five minutes later I was tying my own shoes with two bunny ears crossing over and making the bunny ( well his ear) jump through the bunny hole.

Made absolute sense to me.

Run quick before she ties our ears in a bow

Run quick before she ties our ears in a bow

So I learned early that there is almost always a different way to do things and sometimes it is easier.  Also it helps if you give it a fun name and make it fun.

Never thought a thing about it or bothered to learn the “right way” until I was in college and one of my friends saw me tie my shoes and she was appalled and amused that I was still doing it that way.  So I tried the “normal” way and gave up.  I had better things to do and could do it way faster xanax with bunny ears.

Even though it was done in good fun I didn’t like the teasing and I learned that people don’t like to see things done in new and different ways.

That didn’t stop me. I continued to do things in new and different ways that made people sometimes shake their heads and ironically  those things are now the norm.  I guess I was ahead of my time.

Fast forward to my children learning how to tie their shoes. Settling into my protective mother mode,  I refused to teach them bunny ears and made my husband teach our daughter “the right way”.  Since my hubby traveled quite a bit I had Sarah teach her sister and then Julie taught her brother.  I knew I couldn’t save them from being teased for something or other at some time in their life but it was NOT going to be about how they tied their shoes.

That may have been a mistake ( teaching them the “right way”) because a little later I realized the real life lesson was: Be unique, be who you are and love yourself for it and anyone who doesn’t like it can take a hike.

So with a tiny bit of remorse and wistfulness, I wish I had taught my kids to tie bunny ears..it could now be “our” thing.  All my children are now rolling their eyes and thinking “seriously Mom”?child-542146_1280

As I coach women to “Kick Ass as they age”  I think back to those “bunny ears” and understand ( and see it often) the many different ways for each of us to kick ass in our own way.  There is no “right” way to do it.  Some of us will be loud, some quieter.  There are those women who want to rediscover the “daredevil” and bungee jump or skydive or get a tattoo and others will want to write a book, learn a language or even go back to school.

Being healthy isn’t  all about eating and exercise.  A big portion is feeding our spirit with what makes us come alive and not giving a hoot what somebody else might think.  It’s being active in every part of  our lives and forgetting what things are “suppose” to look like.

So go out and wrestle that rascally rabbit and tie his ears into a bow ( send photos)  Or just tie your shoes differently!

I would love to know what simple  event in your life keeps teaching you life lessons.

Now go out and be healthy today in every way!